learn a new language in 15 minutes or less…

Do you know that everyone has a love language specific to them? 

There are 5 love languages and we all identify primarily with one of the 5: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and/or physical touch. Whats your love language?

I was reminded of my love language earlier this week when Emily over at My Pajama Days, penned an open letter of support and encouragement, a love letter,  on her blog.  She wrote to her writer friends and fellow bloggers and readers.  She did not mention anyone by name but when I read it I felt as though she were writing directly to me.  She is a gifted writer.  She writes from her heart and seems to rarely hold back. I wish I could write would write were brave enough to write like Emily. 

Since reading Emily’s post I have thought about the feeling I got from the words in her letter.  I was touched and encouraged. Why?  Because she was speaking my language.  

My love language is … words of affirmation.  If you pat me on the back, give me a thumbs up or even just click the like button on my  blog you are speaking my language. 

Then I had one of those lightbulb moments!  Now I understand why I check my blog stats several times a day.   In my mind, the numbers equate to likeability which is as close to words of affirmation as you may get on a blog.  I mostly have blog stalkers, you know individuals who pop in and out without so much as a peep.    I don’t know if the individuals who click on my blog posts actually read them or not.  But they were here and in my world it means they “liked”  me my post on some level.  I know that seems silly, really it does, but I can’t help how it makes me feel.  I will never forget the first time someone clicked the like button on one of my posts…lets just say it was a stellar moment.   Also when I had my first comment from a total stranger that was like winning the lottery for me.   

Recently I joined the postaweek2011 challenge and began meeting up with other like-minded bloggers.  Little by little my community of friendly bloggers has grown.  I am getting an almost daily dose of affirmation from the likes of Piglet in Portugal, Papa Joe, Mirth and MotivationSpirit Lights the Way  and Running Garlic!  I know this has had a positive impact on me because I can see it in the mirror.  My glow is back! 

My blogging buddies are my support system.  I hope that my clicking the like button on their blogs and dropping a comment here and there is meeting their love language need.  It’s why we blog on WordPress.  We are all looking for community support.   Otherwise we would be writing  in our diaries and keeping our thoughts and feelings under lock and key.

If you do not know someones love language or you use the wrong love language you may as well be speaking a foreign language to them.  You owe it to yourself and to those whom you love to take a few minutes and learn their love language.  Your relationships will be better for it…it will be the best pre-marital advice you  get, it could save a relationship that is on the brink of disaster.  For heavens sake you could figure out how to talk to your teenager and have them talk back  respond to you.  You might even be able to win over that over bearing person in your life by learning a new language, their language of love. 

I am wondering how you interpret your stats?  Do they equate to your love language?

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16 responses to “learn a new language in 15 minutes or less…

  1. My love language is physical touch and gifts. words of affirmation are very important though and I think I crave them more so with my blog.

  2. Great post! I have never heard of “love languages” but I will definitely be adding this book to my list of must-reads.

    • Hi Danika, Thanks for stopping by and I am glad you liked the post. The books are great! However, you can just follow the hyper-links in the post and take the test right there on-line. The book will give you greater insight into each love language and help you with specific needs. Have a JOYful day!

  3. Wonderful post … I see “me” listed and I Thank You…how very kind of you! I am all for affirmations and whoever invented the “like” button is a genius. Sometimes all we need is a like and we instantly smile and our day lightens up. Thank you for all your support to me! Debbie 🙂

  4. I’m . . . Quality Time

    In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

    Interesting post.

    Thanks, Jeanne!

  5. I absolutely love this blog. Apparently my love language is also affirmation because I too check my stats all day long.

  6. Hi Jeanne,
    You are the light you shine on others… So thank you too for being a blog friend. I love this post though I must say that the language is in the clear affirmations and other gestures… I enjoyed this very much. 🙂

  7. I completely understand about being excited when I had my first “stranger comments” to my blogs. This Postaday Challenge is so much fun! Thanks for sharing!

  8. I’ve never heard of the 5 Love Languages before but they resonate with me. I think my love language is quality time. When I spend time with someone, I feel alive again and connected.

    And yet, I am always doing acts of service, so perhaps I speak 2 languages!?

    Great post and thanks for telling me about this book!

    • Yes, I think we are all bi-lingual to some extent. You can probably pick that book up at your local 1/2 price book shop. I think you will enjoy it. Thanks for stopping by the blog.

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