Daily Archives: July 6, 2012

Friendship is Unneccessary…

“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.”

Friendship…is a two-way street!  It takes two people to form a friendship.  There are a handful of things that transform a mere acquaintance into a friend…there are a few more things that elevate a friend to a best friend. 

An acquaintance is someone who you have some knowledge of and they of you…this relationship is less intimate than friendship…Typically a relationship with an acquaintance is based on business relationships, social commitments, mutual friends or family members.  The relationship with an acquaintance can grow into friendship if there is mutual effort expended by both parties. 

Friendship is the next level in a relationship…Friends desire what is best for one another.  They have sympathy and empathy for one another.  Friends are honest in situations where it would be difficult for others to speak the truth.  There is mutual understanding and compassion which allows friends to go to each other for emotional support.  Friends enjoy each others company no matter the circumstances. 

Best Friends are a whole different level… best friends trust one another with the junk going on in their lives.  A best friend is someone who reciprocates…there is equal give and take…a best friend relationship isn’t made up of one taker and one giver…although at times one may take more than they give they will in time give more than they take.  A best friend allows you to be yourself, express your feelings and make mistakes without fear of judgement.

“The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.”

When you pour yourself into developing friendships your life is infused with the experiences of the other person…maybe they have traveled to places you have only dreamed of and enjoyed culinary delights from the far corners of the earth.  Maybe they are wild and care free or deep thoughtful thinkers.  Maybe there is a characteristic you see in them that you desire for yourself…maybe just maybe they are a looking-glass that shows you what life looks like without actually having to cross the fence to what appears to be greener pastures.  Friendships offer you the opportunity to live life vicariously. 

Even after pouring yourself into growing a friendship there is no guarantee that the friendship will last…It is best to remember that God has planned for lots of people to be in your life for a moment,  fewer people to be in your life for a season and even fewer will bless you for a lifetime, theirs or yours. No matter how long a friendship lasts it is worth the effort.  Every friend adds depth, color, texture and flavor to your life. 

Life is meant to be experienced one friendship at a time! 

Ecclesiastes 4:9–12
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.


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