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My husband and I celebrated our 23 wedding anniversary this year. We are a happily married couple…we enjoy spending time with one another and away from one another.
We are committed to our relationship, our family and one another. Through the years there have been cloudy days and thorn bushes but we have stayed the course and now we are enjoying sunshine and roses.
Great relationships don’t just happen…they require time and attention much like a well-attended garden. An unattended garden develops weeds that can ultimately kill even the heartiest plants.
Treat your marriage like the prized garden that it is…pull the weeds as they pop up, check for creepy crawlers that can cause irritations, fertilize the roots and water regularly. The quality time you spend tending your garden will result in a beautiful display of love and commitment.
A group called the Worldwide Marriage Encounter certified the marriage as the nation’s longest ongoing union. On a recent trip to Nevada, President Obama was even scheduled to deliver brief remarks acknowledging the couple. However Wilbur and his bride were running late to the event…you think…he’s 100 yrs old. So the announcement was scratched from the speech.
As for the secret to their wedded bliss as they approach their 80th anniversary, Wilbur says, “It’s very simple. It’s give and take and compromise.”
Gosh! Is that all it takes to achieve happiness in a life long commitment between two human beings? At first glance Wilbur’s advice seems simple, even attainable. Simple advice within reach of every married couple looking for the answer to wedded bliss. However, marriage is anything but simple. Marriage takes everything you have and then you need to be ready to give and take.
Are you ready for a little Give and Take? Well it’s time to roll up your sleeves and join in the lively exchange of ideas or conversation ….mutual concessions, shared benefits…light teasing, frivolous banter, interaction, reciprocity, agreement and flexibility! Now that wasn’t so bad? Right?!
If you are still committed to achieving wedded bliss after you experienced give and take and reciprocating and bending then it’s time to compromise.
Oh yes Compromise…here we go…it’s time for a settlement of differences in which each side makes concessions…agreements, accommodations, adjustments, trade offs…where a couple meets on middle ground…meets halfway, concedes…supports, boosts, assures and enhances.
And once you have mastered the simplicity of give and take and compromise you will be well on your way to understanding the secret to wedded bliss…
- ational Winners of Longest Married Couple Project Announced by Worldwide Marriage Encounter (faithinspires.wordpress.com)
- MY Sun’s tips for wedded bliss (thesun.co.uk)
Do you know that everyone has a love language specific to them?
I was reminded of my love language earlier this week when Emily over at My Pajama Days, penned an open letter of support and encouragement, a love letter, on her blog. She wrote to her writer friends and fellow bloggers and readers. She did not mention anyone by name but when I read it I felt as though she were writing directly to me. She is a gifted writer. She writes from her heart and seems to rarely hold back. I wish I
could write would write were brave enough to write like Emily.
Since reading Emily’s post I have thought about the feeling I got from the words in her letter. I was touched and encouraged. Why? Because she was speaking my language.
My love language is … words of affirmation. If you pat me on the back, give me a thumbs up or even just click the like button on my blog you are speaking my language.
Then I had one of those lightbulb moments! Now I understand why I check my blog stats several times a day. In my mind, the numbers equate to likeability which is as close to words of affirmation as you may get on a blog. I mostly have blog stalkers, you know individuals who pop in and out without so much as a peep. I don’t know if the individuals who click on my blog posts actually read them or not. But they were here and in my world it means they “liked”
me my post on some level. I know that seems silly, really it does, but I can’t help how it makes me feel. I will never forget the first time someone clicked the like button on one of my posts…lets just say it was a stellar moment. Also when I had my first comment from a total stranger that was like winning the lottery for me.
Recently I joined the postaweek2011 challenge and began meeting up with other like-minded bloggers. Little by little my community of friendly bloggers has grown. I am getting an almost daily dose of affirmation from the likes of Piglet in Portugal, Papa Joe, Mirth and Motivation, Spirit Lights the Way and Running Garlic! I know this has had a positive impact on me because I can see it in the mirror. My glow is back!
My blogging buddies are my support system. I hope that my clicking the like button on their blogs and dropping a comment here and there is meeting their love language need. It’s why we blog on WordPress. We are all looking for community support. Otherwise we would be writing in our diaries and keeping our thoughts and feelings under lock and key.
If you do not know someones love language or you use the wrong love language you may as well be speaking a foreign language to them. You owe it to yourself and to those whom you love to take a few minutes and learn their love language. Your relationships will be better for it…it will be the best pre-marital advice you get, it could save a relationship that is on the brink of disaster. For heavens sake you could figure out how to talk to your teenager and have them
talk back respond to you. You might even be able to win over that over bearing person in your life by learning a new language, their language of love.
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