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Secrets to Wedded Bliss…

It seems there are secrets to wedded bliss…This week Wilbur and Teresa Faiss are celebrating their 80th wedding anniversary. 

A group called the Worldwide Marriage Encounter certified the marriage as the nation’s longest ongoing union. On a recent trip to Nevada, President Obama was even scheduled to deliver brief remarks acknowledging the couple.  However Wilbur and his bride were running late to the event…you think…he’s 100 yrs old.  So the announcement was scratched from the speech. 

As for the secret to their wedded bliss as they approach their 80th anniversary, Wilbur says, “It’s very simple. It’s give and take and compromise.”

Gosh! Is that all it takes to achieve happiness in a life long commitment between two human beings?  At first glance Wilbur’s advice seems simple, even attainable.  Simple advice within reach of every married couple looking for the answer to wedded bliss.  However, marriage is anything but simple.  Marriage takes everything you have and then you need to be ready to give and take.

Are you ready for a little Give and Take?  Well it’s time to roll up your sleeves and join in the lively exchange of ideas or conversation ….mutual concessions, shared benefits…light teasing, frivolous banter, interaction, reciprocity, agreement and flexibility!  Now that wasn’t so bad? Right?! 

If you are still committed to achieving wedded bliss after you experienced give and take and reciprocating and bending then it’s time to compromise.

Oh yes Compromise…here we go…it’s time for a settlement of differences in which each side makes concessions…agreements, accommodations, adjustments, trade offs…where a couple meets on middle ground…meets halfway, concedes…supports, boosts, assures and enhances.

And once you have mastered the simplicity of give and take and compromise you will be well on your way to understanding the secret to wedded bliss

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learn a new language in 15 minutes or less…

Do you know that everyone has a love language specific to them? 

There are 5 love languages and we all identify primarily with one of the 5: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and/or physical touch. Whats your love language?

I was reminded of my love language earlier this week when Emily over at My Pajama Days, penned an open letter of support and encouragement, a love letter,  on her blog.  She wrote to her writer friends and fellow bloggers and readers.  She did not mention anyone by name but when I read it I felt as though she were writing directly to me.  She is a gifted writer.  She writes from her heart and seems to rarely hold back. I wish I could write would write were brave enough to write like Emily. 

Since reading Emily’s post I have thought about the feeling I got from the words in her letter.  I was touched and encouraged. Why?  Because she was speaking my language.  

My love language is … words of affirmation.  If you pat me on the back, give me a thumbs up or even just click the like button on my  blog you are speaking my language. 

Then I had one of those lightbulb moments!  Now I understand why I check my blog stats several times a day.   In my mind, the numbers equate to likeability which is as close to words of affirmation as you may get on a blog.  I mostly have blog stalkers, you know individuals who pop in and out without so much as a peep.    I don’t know if the individuals who click on my blog posts actually read them or not.  But they were here and in my world it means they “liked”  me my post on some level.  I know that seems silly, really it does, but I can’t help how it makes me feel.  I will never forget the first time someone clicked the like button on one of my posts…lets just say it was a stellar moment.   Also when I had my first comment from a total stranger that was like winning the lottery for me.   

Recently I joined the postaweek2011 challenge and began meeting up with other like-minded bloggers.  Little by little my community of friendly bloggers has grown.  I am getting an almost daily dose of affirmation from the likes of Piglet in Portugal, Papa Joe, Mirth and MotivationSpirit Lights the Way  and Running Garlic!  I know this has had a positive impact on me because I can see it in the mirror.  My glow is back! 

My blogging buddies are my support system.  I hope that my clicking the like button on their blogs and dropping a comment here and there is meeting their love language need.  It’s why we blog on WordPress.  We are all looking for community support.   Otherwise we would be writing  in our diaries and keeping our thoughts and feelings under lock and key.

If you do not know someones love language or you use the wrong love language you may as well be speaking a foreign language to them.  You owe it to yourself and to those whom you love to take a few minutes and learn their love language.  Your relationships will be better for it…it will be the best pre-marital advice you  get, it could save a relationship that is on the brink of disaster.  For heavens sake you could figure out how to talk to your teenager and have them talk back  respond to you.  You might even be able to win over that over bearing person in your life by learning a new language, their language of love. 

I am wondering how you interpret your stats?  Do they equate to your love language?

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january reflection…friendships are like cupcakes…

This post is almost exclusively from the 2011 inspirational wall calendar hanging in my office.  I always choose my yearly wall calendar based on the pictures.  In years past I have I had calendars that featured adorable puppies, beautiful landscapes and this past year I ordered a custom calendar filled with pictures from one of our favorite family vacations.  This year’s calendar features comfort food…desserts…and as a bonus they have included a few of the recipes.  The creators of the calendar have wrapped it all up with a pretty bow by reflecting on life as a sweet journey. 

my friends are like an assorted box of cupcakes

…be generous with love and friendship, for the return will make life all the sweeter.

With every friend comes a different kind of friendship.  Some are characterized by the laughter that always seems to bubble to the surface no matter what you’re doing.  The silly memories that emerge are priceless.  Some friendships feel like comfort food, infused with the kind of warmth you can’t put into words but are keenly aware that your soul needs.  Then there are the friendships that take root on many levels, through common interests, a kindred spirit, a similar sense of humor, and a trust born instantly by the reflection of yourself you see in the other. 

No matter how many friendships our hearts hold, God has created us with the capacity to receive more.  Some we’re given to enjoy for a season, some for years, and some for a lifetime-but each one becomes a part of our unfolding story.  And God knows what is just right for us.  The friends we need at the moment we need them…the wisdom, strength and joy we have to offer…the times when we have little more to give than a smile and a hug.  Each and every kindness, whether given or received, is a fragment of His beautiful purpose. 

Friendship is like the perfect confection from God- sweet and satisfying with a wonderful way of making us feel special every day.  It truly is a cupcake for the soul…so whenever one is presented to you, let your heart reply with an enthusiastic, Yes, please!”

 

 

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