I would like to say that I am very fortunate that as far as I know I live in a “liar” free zone, with the exception of one person…I know this because I have had my feelings hurt and heart-broken by family and friends who have chosen to tell the truth over telling lies.
Hurt experienced because of truth is far easier to overcome than hurt caused by lies.
I would venture to say that almost everyone lies. We lie about our weight and our age. We tell people we will call them for lunch and we don’t. We may even exaggerate how much we saved on our last shopping spree. We may even tell little lies on our blog by omitting a truth about when a picture was actually taken, like it really matters.
These little lies are still lies and if you get in the habit of telling little lies the next thing you know you will be telling big lies.
An adult who lies on a regular basis is considered to be an habitual liar. Or even worse, a compulsive liar or a sociopath.
“A compulsive liar is defined as someone who lies out of habit. Lying is their normal and reflexive way of responding to questions. Compulsive liars bend the truth about everything, large and small. For a compulsive liar, telling the truth is very awkward and uncomfortable while lying feels right. Compulsive lying is usually thought to develop in early childhood, due to being placed in an environment where lying was necessary. For the most part, compulsive liars are not overly manipulative and cunning (unlike a sociopath), rather they simply lie out of habit – an automatic response which is hard to break and one that takes its toll on a relationship.”
“A sociopath is typically defined as someone who lies incessantly to get their way and does so with little concern for others. A sociopath is often goal-oriented (i.e., lying is focused – it is done to get one’s way). A sociopath has little regard or respect for the rights and feelings of others. A sociopath often is charming and charismatic, but they use their talented social skills in manipulative and self-centered ways.”
The unfortunate thing about compulsive/sociopathic liars are that they have done if for so long, they don’t even think about what they are doing…This is really sad. How do you get someone to get help when they don’t think they have a problem.
Just look at the adults who have been in the news this past week who are caught up in the deception of lies. There is the on going story of Manti Teo’s girlfriend hoax. Who is the liar in this story? Then there is Lance Armstrong. Who has admitted to lying for years about doping.
When an adult chooses to lie they are sending a message to whoever is listening. The message is this…I matter more than you do. I don’t care about your feelings. I will say whatever I have to, to get what I want, when I want it. They are so convincing they may even cause you to second guess what you know to be THE TRUTH!
Lies and deception have been around since the beginning of time…and will be around until the end of time. Be the TRUTH teller…set an example for those around you. Live your life above reproach.
Liars and the deceptive web they weave will be exposed in time.
Luke 8:17 “For all that is secret will eventually be brought into the open, and everything that is concealed will be brought to light and made known to all.”
Leviticus 19:11 “Do not lie. Do not deceive one another.”